How to Tame a Dragon

Welcome spring! 

I always feel a sense of joy and deeper appreciation for nature in the months of spring. Here in Santa Monica everything is in bloom, in energy, too! 

Lately I’ve been reminded of innocence and what a beautiful thing that is. I see the innocence and light in children. They contain such joy and I feel it when I’m met with their curious eyes and delightful smiles. They bring out my playfulness. They light up my heart. They remind me of all that is good and sacred in life and how important it is to be present and in tune with their needs, for the smallest thing can wound them.

I feel we all have a childlike innocence, some people more than others. I see the weight that some adults carry and I see with that, how they have lost their light and innocence. Some people carry wounds from childhood and adulthood and have a lot of healing to do. Some have overwhelming responsibilities and therefore, their behavior carries a vibration of frustration and tension…any little thing sets them off. When I encounter these people, I try to help them remember their light. It’s easy to encourage and remind, but some, I feel are like fire breathing dragons. You have to be careful with your words and tone – the dragon will breathe fire if it feels it’s being threatened or questioned. Not everyone is ready to see the work they have to do. Not everyone thinks being light and joy-filled is a good thing. It might be an unrealistic, unobtainable fantasy. 

I understand, I've breathed fire with a person or two when I’ve felt like I’ve been disrespected. This is what I want to focus on…how to tame your inner dragon.

The key to all of this, I feel, is to establish healthy boundaries. Sometimes boundaries are absolutely necessary. Just like parents have teach boundaries to their children (well, some do), we have to do the same with certain people in our lives. Before we can do this though, we have to understand what our boundaries are. That can involve some inner reflection and self-work which can take some time. 

Once we have them down, it’s natural to breathe fire when someone crosses them. It’s a protective mechanism. If you have a level of awareness and self-respect, you’re not going to appreciate it when someone crosses your boundaries. You would think the bawl would cause a person to stop, listen and respect our wishes, but what I’ve noticed with breathing fire (getting angry) is that it does no good. It only hurts us and the other person. It’s not an effective way to communicate our needs. There is no way a person can hear you when you are screaming unless they are a well-trained student in deep listening. It takes a lot of life experience and empathy to understand why a person would get angry. I feel that anger is always a manifestation of a wound that has yet to be healed. There is a deep place within that person been hurt at some point in their lives and therefor they won’t tolerate being treated a certain way.

"Sometimes we walk in light. It shines through us. All we touch is warmed and brightened. Sometimes, we are the sun." -W. Spirit

Now with all this, I feel that when we remain light, graceful and embody an innocent attitude, we can gently communicate our needs and what we are comfortable with in relationships and elsewhere in our lives. We can truthfully communicate what hurts us. When we feel like someone is being disrespectful or dishonest, we can communicate with grace and consciousness and try to understand why they are behaving the way they are. We don’t have to accept bad behavior and we can keep our boundaries intact, but we can do it gently.

This month I ask that we do some spring cleaning and clear out anything that is no longer serving you. Bring back you innocence and lighten your load. Communicate gracefully. Keep your boundaries with people and when they cross them, state your needs, hurt and whatever else you need to share. Know that you can make a choice to leave when you feel disrespected. We have to preserve our light and innocence. It’s our life force energy. And, trust that we will always get the love from the people that recognize and cherish the light in us. Believe it!

To help woo your dragon, I'd like to recommend my Light Chakra Spray. I call it fairy dust. :) It will tame anything and anyone. Ha!

Here's a little music to help you with the process, as well!

Positive Vibration - Bob Marley

Sun, Sun, Sun - The Elected

I know - Fiona Apple

I Shall Be Released - Jeff Buckley

I’m wishing you all a wonderful month. I hope that you find the light within and share it will the world.

Much love,

Carrie

My Gypsy Tribe

I have a tribe of gypsy friends/family. One of my sisters is part of the tribe, as are four of my friends. I recognized them immediately. I have a large network of special friends that I share wonderful bonds with and will forever be my extended family, but the gypsies I’ve traveled with for lifetimes and I know that we’ve united for a higher purpose. For being a gypsy is a whole other way of living and not everyone knows what to do with a gypsy. ;)

Gypsy Tribe

I encounter other gypsy “acquaintances” occasionally that I instantly want to bond with. Like vampires, the gypsy in me recognizes them through my higher senses.The kinship that gypsies share is due to an understanding about freedom, expression and a non-conventional way of living. Gypsies are also highly aware and intuitive, for as travelers, they used their wit and instincts to survive and provide for themselves. They relied upon their community wherever they journeyed. When you share deep bonds with your community, if forms a foundation to be anywhere in the world knowing you always have your tribe. That’s the misconception about gypsies--that we’re non-committal. We commit to our community; to justice; to expression and to each other. For when we love, the love is everlasting. Freedom and trust lies in the connection as does a spiritual energy, and when we have this support, anything is possible. 

Caravan

I’m a gypsy, but know that I don’t need to roam this lifetime. My gypsy friends are the same. We’ve connect to support each other in planting roots. We’ve needed freedom so that we can touch more people, but knowing that eventually, we all want to settle down and nest after our work is done.

That is the struggle with gypsies – often, planting roots takes time. Our roles are to spread wisdom, love, support and light through our work. We have to weigh our responsibly so that we can have more space to reach more people. Often gypsies don’t truly settle until later in life. This can be painful, but also incredibly fulfilling…it’s all how you understand the calling.

As much as my heart wants to slow down and settle, my gypsy spirit knows that I have more to do with my work. I’ve had to learn patience. So has my gypsy tribe. Through lifetimes of surviving off our gifts, we’ve learned to be tenacious, resourceful and faithful. Tools I use EVERY, SINGLE, DAY. No matter what, we know how to survive. We will always take care of each other and do the work necessary to share our talents and bring light to the world.

Here is my gypsy advice this month: Follow your dreams. Share your gifts. Make your focus about service. It’s important that we support each other and form a global tribe to uplift and support each other in our work, whatever that may be. I hear many people say “I’m not creative. I don’t have anything to offer. I’m not talented. There’s too much competition.” There is room for us all. Our focus may be different due to our responsibilities, but each role we play is valuable. If you have the space to explore your talents and build them, please do it! And if you’re in your craft, please share it!

I’m grateful for my gypsy friends. Maybe it’s because we’re all so similar. There’s an intuitive understanding. Everyone wants to feel loved and accepted, right? BUT, not everyone understands a gypsy. Oh, and, NEVER I mean, never (!), try to hold them down. They’ll shoot you to the stars!

Dancing Gypsies

Black Gypsy :)

In honor of my gypsy tribe, I’d like to recommend BohemienBlanc (White Gypsy – dances in the light-allure) and Bohemien Sombre (dances inthe dark-mystery). Two of my favorite fragrances from my high-end line of natural perfumes. White Gypsy had a little Rose and Frankincense and Black Gypsy has a little Amber and Rosewood. Both have close to a dozen essential oils in the formula and all are very, very enticing. You know we gypsies like to lure people in to our worlds. ;) 

White Gypsy :)

Here’s a little gypsy folk music to boot!

Oxidental Gypsy - Gypsy Blues (They came to my gypsy sis's office!!)

Carolina Chocolate Drops - Country Girl

Magnolia Beacon - Full Set

Happy March everyone. I hope this month is a great one for you. Bring out your inner gypsy. Start exploring. Share your gifts. Form a tribe, a community and support all you meet!  I have to go dance now. 

Mwah!

Carrie

I do. I choose!

Happy February!!! Oh, la la. The month of love. C'est magnifique!

I contemplated what to write about this month, but after watching documentaries on Gerhard Richter and The Human Experience, I was inspired to talk about a theme that has been weaving in and out of my consciousness and that is “What is sacred?”

What is sacred to you? What does the word sacred mean to you? When I think about Saint Valentine’s Day, I think about all the reasons we have to love one another every day. Expressions of love should expand beyond Valentine’s Day and ooze into every waking day.

What is sacred to me? The list is so long, but I will say, what is most sacred are my relationships. I do not take anyone for granted. I do not pretend that people will be there tomorrow. Each moment is sacred with the people I love.

Beyond this, what is sacred to me is my work. Everything I create is from my heart and a deeply spiritually connected place within me. My product line, perfumes,manifestation beads, art, writing and readings all stem from a place of love and a sincere desire to support, help and empower everyone that I come in contact with. The sacredness of this is beyond explanation.

What is sacred to you? Do you value what is sacred to your loved ones? Do you nurture and cherish them? If not, can you begin to?

Sometimes when we are caught up in managing our lives we forget to appreciate the people in our immediate circle. You may take your partner, or friends for granted. After a long day, you may take your frustration out on your loved ones; maybe you’re neglecting yourself, too. Pay attention to what is sacred to you and begin to cherish and nurture those things. I assure you, it will be worth it.

The universe responds to those who choose love over everything. Our attitudes and language play a big role in what we attract. When we choose to operate from the space of respect and love -- doors and hearts open. What about trying a test this month and consciously choose words of love, even when you want to scream and yell? Can you rise above and choose to love, respect and accept? Can you preserve and protect those things that are sacred to you?

“The last of the human freedoms is to choose one’s attitudes.” Viktor Frankl

Saint Valentine

 I’m going to make a conscious effort this month to elevate my life by choosing to  love – even when I’m hurt, tired and misunderstood…I will choose to love. I will do my best to nurture and cherish everyone I love and uplift anyone I encounter. Do you think you want try it? I bet you’ll like the results. :)

Here’s a little music to get you going:

 Give a Little Love - Noah and the Whale

More Than This - Roxy Music (I had to.)

Bigger Than Love - Benjamin Gibbard

A Valentine for you.

 In honor of Saint Valentine, I’d like to recommend Amour Eternal – Parfum by Life Aromatherapy (yours truly) and my 4^th Chakra Spray – Love. Ohhh, you’re going to smell so good. Be careful! People might attack you (I’ve contemplated putting a warning sign on my fragrances. Haha! ---spray a little and get a tickle. Heavy with the spray, you won’t be able to keep them away. Ha!). Okay, enough with the jokes. Promise. ;)

Ahh, love. Isn’t it why we’re all here? To learn about it. Expand our ability to love. To cherish it? Love is a sacred thing. Our ability to love is one of the greatest gifts we have as humans. To some degree, behind all our actions is the desire to be loved. Even those that are more materially motivated and deep down searching for love and approval. Behind everything and in everyone, is love. I think that is pretty sacred. Don’t you think?

I’m wishing you a wonderful month full of all those things that bring you joy. Happy Valentine’s Day!! Oh, and to my guy, sis, sis-in-law and great friend, Happy Birthday!! MWAH!!

Love, love, love!

Carrie

It's all love...

Love - It is everywhere and in everything. It’s all I’ll ever need on this journey and I will seek it out, spread it and search for it again and again. CK

Welcome to 2013. Woohoo! Oh how I love new beginnings! 

This year holds and uplifted energy like no other. If you’ve been waiting for change and to elevate your circumstances, well I will assure you, it’s going to happen this year. Guaranteed.

January is all about releasing any remnants of the old, so for some, it may be a little rocky to start. You might find that your hyper-sensitive or emotional this month. Sometimes when we are clearing out the old, we grieve. Our bodies have a way of preparing us for the new energy. I’ve found in the last few days that I have moments when I just want to cry and for no particular reason. 2012 was a transformational year for many, me included. Sometimes our bodies just need to catch up and so, even if you’re mentally past something, the body takes a little longer to move through it and release it. Allow it to happen. Try not to resist. Emotions are just energy. They need to move through the body and not get trapped or stifled. It's all good. Promise.

My advice this month is to allow it all to come out. Don’t hold back. Give yourself the space you need. Next month will be action oriented and uplifted. Rest up, now. You’ll be feeling great by months end, I assure you.

I would like to suggest that this month’s focus be on love. True love, pure, unconditional love, starts with you. Make it your goal this month to begin to love and take care of yourself. If you struggle with self-confidence, make it a daily ritual to look yourself in the mirror and say “I love you. You are a beautiful soul. You are perfect just as you are.” For the men out there: "I am a handsome fella. I am confident. I am invincible." --- seriously, I dare you to experiment with affirmations. It can't hurt.. ;)

I’m a big believer in affirmations. Say these mantras daily until you feel and believe them. The more you give to yourself, the more you can give to others. Same goes with love. The more you love and accept yourself, the more able you are to truly love and accept others. Let this be the lesson of the month: To love. Love fully and unconditionally. Start with yourself.

My daily mantra: “Carrie, you are a smart and funny woman. You love shoes a bit too much and have an unusual sense of humor, but I accept you, just as you are.” (Just keeeeeeeeding). 

My true mantra is this: “Carrie, you talk to yourself and to dead people,  you smell like  you walked out of an Indian Temple, you run into things, you pretend you are Larry David and Woody Allen (which isn’t really such a “girly” thing to do), but I love you anyway and appreciate you just as you are.” Wink, wink. Hee hee 

Woody Allen & Larry David

I know sometimes my messages are corny, but in my work with my readings, I've noticed that many people don't love themselves enough and until you learn to love yourself, it's difficult to have a harmonious, balanced life. BUT, that's why we are here. To learn and to figure it out. I'm here to help if you need. There are many resources out there to give you a fresh start.

So, please create your own “love” mantra and use it daily. Be your own advocate. Oh, and use a little Life Aromatherapy “Love” spray to help with the process!;)

 Here’s some music to get you motivated this month, too!

Ottoman - Vampire Weekend

Blue Skies - Noah & The Whale
Dahl Parts - The Theatre Fire
Eyes - Kaskade

To re-vamp the energy of the line, we’ll be redesigning our website so that it is more user friendly. I’ll announce the re-design once it’s done. We’ve added a few more stores to our list of where you can find Life Aromatherapy products, as well. We are now in Paris and Switzerland!! Yay!! Check our Store Listing on our website to find stores in your area. If there is a store that you love and want to see Life Aromatherapy products in, let us know! We’re always open to new opportunities. 

Another thing: My reading rates have changed a little. This month I’m offering 15% off any readings scheduled this month. Please send me an email at: carrie@fairygirlbliss.com to schedule. You can check out a list of my services here: http://www.fairygirlbliss.com/services.

It’s going to be a great year. Trust it! Big things are happening…I can feel it. Let’s clear the slate and start with love. Once the flood gates open next month, let’s spread our love and energy everywhere!! We are all brilliant creators. Let’s share our gifts, fulfill our dreams and start imaging bigger and better things for ourselves.

With love,

Carrie